Why is she mad at me for i did what i did for both of us?

First of all, I think you need to marry her soon so she can get healthcare 100 percent from the military an your bah will go up. Before volunteering for deployment or re-enlisting did you discuss it with her? My husband was navy and just got out in November and if he had re signed to stay in without talking to me I'd have been pissed. He was gone for 7 months every year we were married. 2 years in we had a little girl. He would go away for 6 months and when he came back she didn't remember him and was scared of him for days. They still aren't as close as we'd like. Thats why he got out and that's probably what your girlfriend is worried about. Plus it's hell to raise a baby all by yourself when your spouse is gone...I understand that you could use the money but there are more important things. Plus you can get wic, military housing, medical, ect through the military...they help a lot...I honestly think you're not seeing this from her point of view. My husband was forced into deployments that he would have gotten out of if he could. He never would volunteer to be away from his family. On another note, I never complained or nagged my husband about being taken away. I knew what I was getting into when I married him and I'm so proud of him...